Dating Blurb

In order to detect lies here’s what you need to pay attention to: 

1. How they use words, written, on the phone, or in person:

• Talking faster or slower.
• Changes in voice pitch.
• Taking charge of conversation, attempts to distract you.
• Continual denying of accusations.
• Unusual voice fluctuations, word choice, sentence structure.
• Stalling the conversation by repetitive use of pauses and comments like “um” or “you know.”
• Lack of use of contractions.
• Prefers emphasizing “not” when talking.
• Being extremely defensive.
• Saying “Trust me.”

2. How they behave or the attitudes they exhibit:

• Being hesitant.
• Nervous laughter.
• Smugness.
• Uncommon calmness.
• Providing more information and specifics than is necessary or was asked for.
• Inconsistencies in what is being shared.

3. In-person behavior clues:

• Touching chin, covering the mouth, or rubbing brows.
• Crossed arms or legs.
• Pupils narrow.
• Playing with hair.
• Body language and facial expressions don’t match what is being said such as saying “no”, but nodding head up and down.
• Avoidance of eye contact, eyes glancing to the right, staring past you or down, or turning away from you while they are talking.
• Rigid or fidgeting.
• Slouching posture.
• Unnatural or limited arm and hand movements.
• Partial shrug.
• Lack of finger pointing.
• May place a barrier such as a desk or chair in front of self.
• Sweating, even if it isn’t a warm day.
• Saying “no” several times.