Relationship Addiction versus Love
Often in my life, I have come across people who fall in and out of love like changing seasons and change their boy/girl friends like raincoats. What amuses me is that in each relationship they claim “to never have felt like this before” and claim that “this is love”.
What such people forget is that it is easy to confuse relationship addiction with love. But then who is a relationship addict? If your behaviour is making your life unmanageable and you are relying on someone else to get your unmet needs fulfilled, then it is time to think of yourself as a relationship addict.
So what’s the test, eh? Well, I put together some questions that specialists will ask you @ $$$ per hour. Read them carefully and consider for some time, if your answer for the below mentioned questions or majority of them is in affirmative then you sir/mam are a relationship addict.
- Do you feel consumed?
- Are you afraid of letting go?
- Do you give in order to get?
- Do you want to change the other?
- Do you need the other to feel complete?
- Do you demand and expect unconditional love?
- Do you avoid commitment?
- Do you fear being abandoned during a routine separation?
- Do you desire closeness yet fear it?
- Do you play power games?
- Have you lost your boundaries, no longer knowing where you end and the other begins?