Button up Those Lips on A First Date
A first date is one of life’s most exciting experiences. You agonize over what to wear, how to fix your hair and if your breath is fresh enough to pass muster. It is natural to be nervous, and oftentimes when people are nervous they babble to fill silent voids and lulls in conversation. Many times the topics they touch on are controversial, and could have disastrous consequences for the prospective relationship.
Don’t Stick Your Foot in Your Mouth
The biggest turn off is when your date harps on and on about his or ex. Sure, you can mention any serious relationships in the past, but there’s really no necessity to get into specifics and personal details. Talking incessantly about an ex lover can indicate to your date that you still have unresolved feelings. There will be plenty of time to talk about that subject when you know each other better.
Bragging about accomplishments can be a bore as well. No one wants to listen to someone trying to convince you how great and wonderful they are. This will set off alarms that you are insecure and you need validation. It may instead indicate that you are arrogant and full of yourself.
Religion and Politics are always Taboo
First dates should be an exploration, a chance to see if there is attraction and chemistry between two people. Subjects like religion and politics are heavy and shouldn’t be delved into on a first date. If you like each other and want to continue to date, there will be lots of time to have heated debates on a number of subjects. There are many things that are light hearted and interesting enough to talk about on your first time out together.
Remember to think before you speak and that it is okay to have silence between you. You don’t have to blurt out whatever is on your mind during a lull, you can think about what would be appropriate and ensure there is no embarrassment on either side.