Dating Blurb

If you are in a relationship that is causing you more pain then pleasure, you should sit down and make a list of things you want to be different and how you can go about achieving that. It may help you to decide if the relationship is worth your time and effort.

How to Say Goodbye

You can’t just disappear into thin air if things aren’t working for you and your partner. Sit down with them and tell them how you feel and allow them to respond. You want your break up to go smoothly as is possible, without any recriminations.

Avoid laying blame, whether on yourself or on the other person. Be honest about your feelings and begin sentences with, “I feel,” rather than “You are.” If you talk it out, you may be able to pinpoint what went wrong in this relationship, and try to avoid making those same mistakes the next time around.

Look to Yourself First

If this isn’t the first time you have had a break-up, it may be time to ask yourself some serious questions such as, “Am I following a pattern?” It may be that your relationships all run the same course and end the same way. If you find this to be true, looking for patterns can be a way for you to avoid heartbreak in the future. Do you always pick unattainable people and then feel morose when they can’t give you what you want in a relationship?

Taking some time to reflect when you have ended a relationship is always a good idea before you begin looking for another partner. You have a better chance at success with the next person if you take the time to do a little self examination after a break up.