Dating Blurb

The night is almost over. Your date has not gone well, and you’re truly dreading the good-bye and the expected goodnight kiss. Men are not very good at reading the signals that women give out, so don’t assume the guy knows you are really not into him. Most men will need you to tell them, gently but firmly, you are not interested in seeing them again.

Of course slipping out the back door is not an option, though it may seem attractive. If you have no intention of ever seeing him again, being nice may not work. He may take your niceness for interest. So what do you do when you have reached the point when it is time to say farewell?

The first thing you should do, especially if your date has treated you to dinner or other activity, is to thank him. You can gently explain point blank that you don’t feel any chemistry between the two of you. Don’t offer the lame explanation that you can still be friends, unless you truly want to be friends with him. It is best to cut things off right away so you don’t give him false hope later on.

Don’t give in to a goodnight kiss because you feel badly. This too may give him promise that you may eventually change your mind if he is just persistent enough. Ask him nicely not to call you again and wish him luck in his life and his quest for love.

Sometimes being cruel to be kind is the only way to go when you are out with someone you have absolutely no interest in dating again. Men can be quite tenacious and continue to call if you give them even just a glimmer of hope. So though you may feel like a rat, be honest and tell him you are just not interested in pursuing the relationship any further.