Dating Blurb

Valentine’s Day can be a rough holiday for guys. They are expected to show their appreciation for their lady love with gifts, cards and romance. For most guys, this can be a daunting task. Everyone gives flowers and candy; so what can you do to make the day special?

Buy a Unique Gift

Instead of the expected dozen roses and heart shaped box of candy, why not use your noodle, and get creative? You could consider buying a gift certificate for you to have a romantic couple’s massage. Not only with this benefit your true love, but it will benefit you as well. You can buy her a gift basket, and fill it with gifts yourself. You can put in a bottle of wine, chocolate body paint and sensuous massage oil

Get Away from it All

You can present your lover with tickets to an exotic, tropical getaway. If you can’t afford such a gift, making plans to stay overnight at a romantic bed and breakfast that is not too far away can make the same statement. Nothing will sweep her off her feet like a man making all the arrangements for a romantic weekend getaway.

Make it a Night to Remember

If you want to show your love right in town, you can plan a romantic stroll along the beach. Or if you don’t live near the beach, perhaps a walk through the botanical gardens will do the trick. You can set up a blanket in the backyard and play romantic music on the radio as you hold hands and gaze up at the stars.

Planning a Valentine’s Day surprise is not as difficult as you may imagine. Women like men to put thought into their gift. Most women will be happier with a poem you wrote yourself than a houseful of roses.

It is a fact of life; your looks do matter. Not only do your looks matter, but the clothes you wear, the people you are with and the places you frequent are all things people judge you for and in this day of perfect, slender beauty, the way you look matters more than ever.

That is not to say if you are not supermodel beautiful, you will never get a date. It means that first impressions say a lot about who you are, and the way you feel about yourself. You can be the smartest, sweetest person in the world, but if you are wearing ratty sweatpants and t-shirts as your main wardrobe, you would be hard pressed to get a date with the person of your dreams this way.

Making the most out of your looks and focusing on your best attributes shows other people you take pride in your appearance. It is the difference between being noticed, and being overlooked. In order to get that person interested in the wonderful person you are inside, you have to get them to see you first.

No matter how funny and interesting you might find someone, if there is no chemistry there can be no long lasting relationship. Usually at first glance, you know if you find someone attractive, and the same goes when they are looking at you. First dates are usually about attraction, and looking your best helps you to feel your best and that usually spells success.

Keep yourself well groomed and wear clothing that flatters your body type instead of just what is in fashion. If you feel you are not in the best of shape, then join a gym instead of whining you are too fat to attract a mate. You don’t have to have scads of money in order to dress well, you just need to be savvy and know where to find the bargains. Remember, your looks do matter though you don’t have to be a raving beauty to get a date.

If you’ve found yourself being rejected once too often, it could be a lack of confidence that’s doing you in. This is something most people don’t consider when they are trying to make it in the dating game.  Self confidence is one of the most attractive traits in a partner, although you don’t want someone too full of themselves either.  

What is Self Confidence?

Self confidence is the feeling of having pride in yourself and your abilities. It’s okay to be proud of yourself; that is a sign of a mentally healthy person as long as they keep the proper perspective. No one likes a braggart or a show-off. But they do want someone who is confident in themselves. For instance, if you love your job and feel good about the path your life is taking, this communicates itself to others that you are a person who has high self-esteem.

How to Tell if You are Self Confident

Do you know how to take a compliment?

When someone tells you that you’ve done a good job, do you thank them confidently or say, “Oh, I am surprised you like it.”

Do you constantly put yourself down and present yourself in a negative light?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you may have some issues with your self confidence. Getting more self confidence in order to land the date you have long been pining for is one of the easiest things to change about yourself.

Getting the Confidence

Never focus on negative aspects of your personality, focus on the things you like. Are you funny with a good sense of humor? Are you a loyal and true friend? Do you get the job done when you say you will? These are all things you can be proud of when you see it in yourself. The more you concentrate on the positive, the more positive the impression you will give to people when you meet them.