Dating Blurb

We are all familiar with mainstream online dating sites such as eHarmony, Match.com etc, that promise you will find a lifelong mate, but are you aware there is a whole other world of online dating you might be missing? With niche dating, you could have a better chance of finding your true mate.  

A niche dating site is typically a site that caters to singles looking for like minded people such as animal lovers, fitness freaks, sci-fi or electronics geeks, golfers and hundreds of others too numerous to list.

Of course many of these sites are fly-by-night operations that don’t take hold in the public’s mind, but many others have thrived and passed the test of time. One such site can boast matching animal activist vegetarians which can be a tough category to find the like minded mates. There are other sites that cater to animal lovers of all kinds such as common household pets and even some more exotic types of animals. If you are a rooting, tooting cowboy or cowgirl, you can find a niche dating site that may hook you up with the person of your dreams.

There are many people with disabilities and niche dating sites that cater to their needs may be the perfect place they can find true love. If you are a woman who is a little more than on the plump side, there are niche dating sites that will introduce you to men who live by the creed, “Bigger is beautiful.”

How about the gal who wants a man with a lot of cash in his pockets? She can visit quite a few niche dating sites that cater to successful singles as well as to rich men and the ladies who want to date them. For the girl or guy that is looking for a more homespun romance, they can browse a dating site that is devoted to bringing country folk and farmers together for long lasting romance.

Not very long ago, it was only proper that if a man asked a woman out on a date, he was expected to pay the tab for the evening. Things have changed a lot in a short time, and the man isn’t always expected to pay for the date these days. How do you know who is going to pay?

When a Man asks the Woman

Men are hunters by nature and when he asks a woman on a date, that is part of the ritual. If a man likes you, he will often be more than happy to pay for your evening out, especially if he was the one doing the asking. When you accept this courtesy, you are telling the man that you too are interested. You might offer to pay your way out of politeness, and if he refuses you know he is interested in seeing you again. If you insist on paying your own way, you may give him the impression that you are rejecting him.

What if He Asks you for Money?

If when the check comes, your date asks you to chip in for the tab, you can be reasonably sure that he is not all that interested in you. Guys want to impress their crush and paying is one way they try and do that. There are plenty of guys who will come up with a myriad of excuses of why they can’t pay such as they forgot their wallet, they are a little short this week, and this should be a big, waving, red flag for you.

The Obligation Factor

Many women today offer to pay their own way so they don’t feel obligated or indebted to the fellow they are out with. Most women have jobs and make a good living and they don’t want to seem as if they are taking advantage by making the man pay for everything. You can let him pay for the dinner and then treat him to a movie afterwards. Who pays is a big consideration in the dating game, one that your mother probably never had to worry about when she was single.

If you have found yourself unlucky in love so many times, and you have been blaming it on the men you have picked, it might be time for you to shift some of the blame where it really belongs - on your shoulders. If you can’t seem to find love, it may not be because men are men - it might just be it is because you are you.

Look a Little Deeper

If you find your love life runs the same pattern over and over, it is probably because of something you are doing or not doing. It is easier for a woman to blame the man rather than look to herself. Sure, you can find lots of immature guys out there just looking for nothing more than a hot body, but all men are not the same. You may want to consider that you might be the immature one with unrealistic expectations.

Look at Me!

Men are not attracted to desperate women. You may want to consider if some of your actions such as emailing, IMing and texting frequently are signaling him that you are ready to plunge into an exclusive relationship after only a few dates, or worse, that you have no life.

How many times have you wanted to bail on a guy because after a few dates he is calling and trying to get in contact with you constantly? Even if you really like someone and think he feels the same way, allow him to make some of the moves instead of bulldozing your way into his life. Be patient and control your impulses.  Let time decide if he is the right one for you.

It is confusing to be told, “Play hard to get, yet be accessible.” Finding the right balance when you meet a prospective suitor can be tough. Your best bet is to take your time, be honest, and be yourself.

Putting on an act is not the way to begin a relationship.