Feed

Breaking Up is Hard to Do

Posted on December 17th, 2007 in Relationship Problems by

If you are in a relationship that is causing you more pain then pleasure, you should sit down and make a list of things you want to be different and how you can go about achieving that. It may help you to decide if the relationship is worth your time and effort.

How to Say Goodbye

You can’t just disappear into thin air if things aren’t working for you and your partner. Sit down with them and tell them how you feel and allow them to respond. You want your break up to go smoothly as is possible, without any recriminations.

Avoid laying blame, whether on yourself or on the other person. Be honest about your feelings and begin sentences with, “I feel,” rather than “You are.” If you talk it out, you may be able to pinpoint what went wrong in this relationship, and try to avoid making those same mistakes the next time around.

Look to Yourself First

If this isn’t the first time you have had a break-up, it may be time to ask yourself some serious questions such as, “Am I following a pattern?” It may be that your relationships all run the same course and end the same way. If you find this to be true, looking for patterns can be a way for you to avoid heartbreak in the future. Do you always pick unattainable people and then feel morose when they can’t give you what you want in a relationship?

Taking some time to reflect when you have ended a relationship is always a good idea before you begin looking for another partner. You have a better chance at success with the next person if you take the time to do a little self examination after a break up.

The First Kiss

Posted on December 9th, 2007 in Dating Tips - Men by

Men are not always aware of the significance that women place on the very first kiss. To put it in a perspective that might be easier to understand, when you kiss a woman for the first time, she decides right then and there if you are ever going to get the chance to kiss her again. There are usually no second chances for a guy if he fails the first kiss test!

If you want to plant one on her lips that will leave her breathless and begging for more, there are a few simple things you can take care of before you are ready to go for the gold.

  • Be sure that your breath is fresh. Floss and brush thoroughly before you go out.
  • Try and get a sense if she is feeling the same way. You can reach out and touch her hair and tell her how lovely it is. If she smiles, you can feel confident that you may touch it again, only this time, glance between her hair, eyes and lips. If she allows the contact, you can be sure that she is hoping to be kissed.
  • Be confident about yourself and in control of the situation

Make it a Memorable Kiss

To make a kiss memorable, a woman likes a man that will look deeply in her eyes before he takes the plunge. Making that all important eye contact will be something that will linger in her mind long after the kiss is over.

Be gentle. Though a woman likes a man to ravish her every now and again, nothing says romance like a first kiss that starts off slow and gentle. If both of you are feeling some passion, let the kiss become fiercer naturally.

Make sure you use your hands to caress her. A woman loves to be caressed and this is especially true when they are kissing. Just be sure that you stay within proper boundaries for your first and most important kiss!

The Dilemma of What to Buy the Lady in Your Life this Holiday Season

Posted on November 29th, 2007 in Dating Tips - Men by

Buying a gift for that special lady you have been seeing can be a tough decision for a guy to make. The gift you buy her will signify where you feel you are in the relationship. This can be a risky maneuver if you are not sure of her feelings toward you.

Impress Her with Your Ingenuity

Most women are not really concerned with the gift, they want to see that their man thinks about them and planning a romantic evening for the two of you on your own will really impress her. There are so many little touches you can add to make it a special evening complete with flowers, music, candles and a delicious, if not elegant dinner. What would really blow her mind is if you cooked the dinner yourself. A woman loves to see a man in the kitchen, and it can be a real turn-on.

Planning Your Romantic Evening

Decide what you are going to prepare for dinner. If you are not a chef in the kitchen, prepare something easy such as spaghetti, warm Italian bread and a fresh, green salad. To learn how to cook a meal for two, check this out. Choose an appropriate wine to accompany the meal. Be sure you buy something sinful and chocolaty for dessert as this will put the evening over the top. There is nothing a woman likes more than being feted with attention and chocolate.

Buy a fresh bouquet of flowers. They don’t have to be roses; a simple floral bouquet will suffice. You will also want to choose the music you intend to play during the evening. Choose music that is soft and romantic to get you both in the mood.

Lighting scented candles and having them scattered about lends the evening a mysterious air. The air will be full of sensuous scents and soft strains of your favorite songs. You would be hard pressed to find a woman that won’t appreciate all the time and effort you have put into your special evening as a gift for the two of you.

Button up Those Lips on A First Date

Posted on November 23rd, 2007 in First Dates by

A first date is one of life’s most exciting experiences.  You agonize over what to wear, how to fix your hair and if your breath is fresh enough to pass muster. It is natural to be nervous, and oftentimes when people are nervous they babble to fill silent voids and lulls in conversation. Many times the topics they touch on are controversial, and could have disastrous consequences for the prospective relationship.

Don’t Stick Your Foot in Your Mouth

The biggest turn off is when your date harps on and on about his or ex. Sure, you can mention any serious relationships in the past, but there’s really no necessity to get into specifics and personal details.  Talking incessantly about an ex lover can indicate to your date that you still have unresolved feelings. There will be plenty of time to talk about that subject when you know each other better.

Bragging about accomplishments can be a bore as well. No one wants to listen to someone trying to convince you how great and wonderful they are. This will set off alarms that you are insecure and you need validation. It may instead indicate that you are arrogant and full of yourself.

Religion and Politics are always Taboo

First dates should be an exploration, a chance to see if there is attraction and chemistry between two people. Subjects like religion and politics are heavy and shouldn’t be delved into on a first date. If you like each other and want to continue to date, there will be lots of time to have heated debates on a number of subjects. There are many things that are light hearted and interesting enough to talk about on your first time out together.

Remember to think before you speak and that it is okay to have silence between you. You don’t have to blurt out whatever is on your mind during a lull, you can think about what would be appropriate and ensure there is no embarrassment on either side.

 

Get the Scoop on Internet Dating

Posted on November 20th, 2007 in Online Dating Services by

Perhaps you live in a remote area where meeting anyone other than the same people you see on an everyday basis can make it difficult to find a date. Or you may be re-entering the dating world because you recently broke up a long term relationship and you find it hard to meet people of your own age as hanging out in clubs and singles bars is just not your scene. There is a solution to your dilemma if you recognize yourself in any of these descriptions. You can try the fun and intrigue of online dating.

Are You in It for the Fun or the Long Run?

If you have decided to take a crack at online dating, you may be wondering which the better sites to join are. That depends entirely on what you are expecting from your internet dating experience. If you are in it just for fun and games and to meet like minded friends, you will do quite well on a free internet dating site. Those who are more serious about choosing a partner will do better on a site that requires you to pay a fee. It seems that those looking for a permanent relationship are more willing to pay for the chance to meet someone to spend the rest of their lives with.

Things to Know before You Begin

There is plenty of internet dating etiquette you will need to learn as well as which sites are the best suited for your needs. You may also want to know how to maximize your profile to attract the most people and the types of photos you should post. This online dating magazine is chock full of tips on how to improve your matches.  You can also learn from reading stories written by real people, reviews of various dating sites as well as more information on how to make your online dating experience a success.

 

Dressing for the Big Date

Posted on November 15th, 2007 in Appearance and Clothing by

Clothing speaks a thousand words of your personality and the kind of person you are. It reflects your attitude towards life, towards your self, and your overall taste and classiness in general. To make sure your date gets a good enough idea of you without you having to take the trouble of narrating anecdotes or talking on specific topics to show your taste, dress up! The saying “Do not judge a book by its cover” does not apply in the dating world!

  • Dress appropriately. It should be according to the occasion and the place you will be going. This is the first sign of sensibility that goes a long way.
  • Look fresh and clean- crisp clothing will always be

Dating Do’s and Don’ts for Men

Posted on November 10th, 2007 in Dating Tips - Men by

A successful date is a result of an evening when you have been truly charming and have swept the lady off her feet! So here are certain “tips” that one should keep in mind when embarking upon that “big date” with a “special someone” in order to make it last…if you really want so that is!

  • The very first thing to make sure is that you call a few hours before the date. It will not only tell her that you are excited about the date but also confirm the plan! Be gentle, may be a bit teasing too! Show her that she is going out with a chivalrous man by offering her to choose the venue and by offering to pick her up too

Dating Do’s and Don’ts for Women

Posted on November 5th, 2007 in Dating Tips - Women by

He has already fallen for you by asking you out. And if you are the one to have asked him out, then the fact that he has agreed to come talks enough of his attraction towards you. To confirm this attraction into something more and lasting, here is what you can do.

  • If he offers to choose a place, make sure it is not overly priced. Frankly, it sends a cheapskate signal knowing it is usually a guy’s prerogative to look after the bill. Instead, choose a place which is fun and adventurous rather than going for a regular dining experience, something that suits both of yours taste or something that is bound to interest him. It will open you both up by making you be yourself and will not bind you with all the

Online Dating Rules

Posted on November 1st, 2007 in Online Dating Services by

Internet has expanded its presence is almost every sphere of ones life, right from high-end technical information seeking, to fast modes of communication, which has now given rise to a whole new world of online dating services! It is not only fast and simple, but also gives an option of anonymity and revealing only the relevant information. One can also try out different people at the same time, without the risk of being caught red handed! Online dating is convenient and can be done sitting at ones home or office at any time of the day, where the Miss/ Mr. Right is just a click away. Dating has never been so

Erich Fromm on Relationship Addiction versus Love

Posted on October 31st, 2007 in Uncategorized by

Psychologist Erich Fromm says, “Mature love is union under the condition of preserving one’s integrity, one’s individuality.” In this kind of love, he says we “have an active concern for the life and the growth of that which we love.”

The key word in addiction is “self-centeredness.” To love we need to transcend our own selfish desires, and that’s difficult work. When we elevate ourselves from the regime of selfishness to a regime of unselfishness where we can connect to other people, w can b sure that we are in love. After all, during the honeymoon period of a relationship we become consumed by our own wish to achieve happiness with the other person. And we can’t imagine this unity including such realities as fundamental differences in values, disagreement, conflict, and separation of one kind or another. But then why doesn’t this